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DO GIRLS HAVE TO LOOK LIKE PLAYBOY BUNNIES?

The other day my 3-year-old cousin paid me a visit. We met after a long time and she had a lot of questions to ask me.
My! We really talked and played a lot. She was full of questions on everything, the things on the showcase, the books, she even told me a few stories.
Later that day when I got a break, I put the TV on and I saw a movie. The movie wasn’t worth a penny but it was a hit in Kerala at the time it was released. The heroine aged at around 18 is a very docile young woman. She is very frightened, unsure and doesn’t question anything at all.
It left me thinking. I compared my 3-year-old cousin with that 18-year-old character in the movie.
My cousin is active, is inquisitive, laughs aloud and in total she is full of character.
Will she grow up to be like that 18-year-old passive girl? You feel like shaking her up and breathing some life into her.
That 18-year-old girl has lost her soul in the process of growing up. Is this case something applicable just to her or is this something in general?
I think it is general. Most of the girls are so. They learn to suppress themselves, they learn to accept and obey.
There are certain stereotypes for women. Just turn the T.V on and have a look at the ads and the songs.
No matter what the women is, a doctor, teacher, journalist or a housewife she has to look like a playboy bunny. However sure and stern she is at last she has to plop into the hands of man, like a blob of jelly.
The male lead in the songs would be fully dressed sometimes even with a coat on, whereas the woman would be clothed in the barest minimum.
Sometimes it seems as if it is an all boy’s world. Movies with all the modern racing cars, guns and violence and women clothed barely exposing their bodies.
As a young girl grows up these images keep on beaming onto her. You have to be beautiful, you have to be appealing.
They may talk about becoming doctors or scientists when they are young, but once they grow up they seem to put aside all that and all what they think is about their looks and appearance, about clothes, fashion and makeup.
They get targeted increasingly for their bodies. They grow more unsure of themselves .How can you be sure and confident about yourselves when you are unsure of your body itself?
If you are a bit stern in your job or character you are likely to b viewed as less feminine.
Slowly they tend to loose their souls and character and all the stress is on how you appear rather than what you are?
In the process we loose an active person who once took a wide interest in the world around her.
We come across many cases where girls are exploited by people even their near relatives.
So they face many restrictions and coupled with the stress on being appealing, they grow more and more unsure of themselves. They loose their confidence in themselves and they get reduced from being a person to just an aggression of hair, lips and the rest.
Let the parents not loose their daughters who once debated on issues with them, who lit up their homes with their laughter and in place have a passive, with drawn, unsure, diffident person, a shadow of the real self.
A girl needs a safe, secure place to grow up where she can be her real self. Let them not loose their souls and reduce themselves to just an aggression of several body parts, but see and value them as real persons both with soul and body.